It Didn’t Go As Planned, And It’s Okay

My entire life can be described in one sentence:  It didn’t go as planned, and it’s okay. --Rachel Wolchin What do you mean it’s okay when it doesn’t go as planned?  I read this quote and chuckle.  When it doesn’t go as planned, my fear says--”What did I do wrong?  Who screwed it up and …

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Where Does Feeling Unwanted Get Me?

Unwanted. Rejected. By a parent.  A spouse.  A child.  A friend.  A stranger.  A loved one.  A coworker. Unwanted.  It means we weren't a priority, we were less valued than the conditions required to want us. We think, What's wrong with me that I wasn't enough? And that's the wrong question to ask.  In the …

Journey to Mindfulness–Day 5

Day 5:  Have tea with your fears.   Fears.  Thoughts that linger, grow bigger in both volume and anxiety.  "Awful-izing" and "what if" lists get longer.  Breathing becomes restricted, shallow.  Tension in the neck, shoulders, and even chest.  Complete overwhelm. The truth:  Fears are just thoughts. Shocking, right?  They are just thoughts.  Thoughts we give …