I’m giving myself credit today. Something I don’t often do. To really take it all in. What it means to have accomplished all that I’ve done. What it really means. It doesn’t feel that way when you’re in it. When you’ve fought it. And screamed it. And it’s not always easy to give credit when you don’t feel like you did it as well as others could. So I’m letting go of the over thinking, and simply reminding myself, I defied the odds.
Part of the power in embracing the moment, is the inherent necessity to fully embrace all parts of ourselves, the wholeness, to move forward with strength and vulnerability, a delicate balance that allows for honest truth and powerful choice. I started out, as most might, denying all the perceived negative attributes of my upbringing. I cannot let people know about my life, besides, I’m never going to be like that again, never going to allow that to happen, so why shouldn’t it be a secret? While there is a distinct difference between publicly shaming ourselves or our loved ones and telling our stories with integrity and truth, there is power to integrating and allowing the skills we developed, as a result of the challenges we’ve faced, into our normal day to day lives.
Integrating this life experience adds tremendous strength, deepens the purpose and meaning to our lives, and frees us from the shame. Turning these survival mechanisms into life skills makes us better at living. And allowing ourselves to give ourselves credit for defying the odds, well, that sure does make us feel good…and grateful.
I was the first in my family to graduate from college, UCLA with a bachelor’s in Chemistry.
I married a good man, a wonderful father to our son.
I respect money and all that it offers and doesn’t offer us.
I value relationships beyond just how they serve my best interest.
I live free of dependency on alcohol and drugs.
I stay home, despite the risks and sacrifices, to care for my family.
According the the odds, and my life story, I shouldn’t be where I am, wouldn’t have made any of these choices. Some of it may have been luck, but most of it is good decision making, and today, I am giving myself credit. Tomorrow, well, it will be all the people that supported and loved me along the way, but for today, I am going to let it be me.
I defy the odds by being open to change and being willing to embrace every moment. How have you defied the odds? Are you giving yourself the much needed credit?
If you’re curious about what I’ve overcome, you might be interested in reading a bit of my life stories, shared on my first blog, http://www.embracingthismoment.blogspot.com.
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